A Helpful How-To: Healthy Endings to Relationships

Healthy Endings to Relationships

People who are able to be open and feel compassion and love towards our former partners are in for a great reward. You’ll be able to feel deep self-love; a sense of closure, and you will grow in the future so you can experience loving, healthy relationships. A relationship ending is not the end of the world. Some relationships are not meant to work out in the moment and some are simply not meant to be. Learn from the time you had together and allow yourself to feel the emotions, then move forward. A relationship changes people, so does one ending which is why it is so important to end them in the healthiest way possible.

There are few reasons why a relationship cannot end in a healthy way, though the one that comes to mind is anything abusive. If you happen to be in an abusive relationship, cut all ties immediately and walk away not worrying about things ending on a positive note. Otherwise, be honest when things are ending instead of dragging things on simply because you want a relationship. Below is a list of ways to help you end a relationship on a positive note.

Here are some things you can do to work towards this goal. I developed this list as I went through an ending of my own.

  1. Be kind to yourself and to your ex even if they’re acting with a mean spirit.
  2. Always be honest with yourself and with your ex.
  3. Be a true friend to your ex, even if your ex doesn’t reciprocate.
  4. Remember the beauty that was in the relationship
  5. Listen to your ex’s pain, even if it hurts you to do so.
  6. Understand that you might be causing pain.
  7. Let yourself feel your hurts.
  8. Work at feeling compassion for the person that hurt you. They’re human, too.
  9. Know that you’re not a mistake.
  10. If you hurt your ex, apologize. Then apologize again.
  11. Examine your role in the relationship and its ending.
  12. Discover yourself. Delve deeply within. Seek counseling if you need help doing this.
  13. Always choose the high road.
  14. Put yourself first, even if this means you need to leave the relationship.
  15. Don’t let the ex return to you if they haven’t truly changed. If they haven’t yet, they won’t.

In closing, strive to forgive, to release, and to remember.