A Helpful How-To: Healthy Endings to Relationships
October 4, 2018
People who are able to be open and feel compassion and love towards our former partners are in for a great reward. You’ll be able to feel deep self-love; a sense of closure, and will grow in the future so you can experience loving, healthy relationships.
Here are some things you can do to work towards this goal. I developed this list as I went through an ending of my own.
Be kind to yourself and to your ex even if they’re acting with a mean spirit.
Always be honest with yourself and with your ex.
Be a true friend to your ex, even if your ex doesn’t reciprocate.
Remember the beauty that was in the relationship
Listen to your ex’s pain, even if it hurts you to do so.
Understand that you might be causing pain.
Let yourself feel your hurts.
Work at feeling compassion for the person that hurt you. They’re human, too.
Know that you’re not a mistake.
If you hurt your ex, apologize. Then apologize again.
Examine your role in the relationship and its ending.
Discover yourself. Delve deeply within. Seek counseling if you need help doing this.
Always choose the high road.
Put yourself first, even if this means you need to leave the relationship.
Don’t let the ex return to you if they haven’t truly changed. If they haven’t yet, they won’t.
In closing, strive to forgive, to release, and to remember.