People who are able to be open and feel compassion and love towards our former partners are in for a great reward. You’ll be able to feel deep self-love; a sense of closure, and will grow in the future so you can experience loving, healthy relationships.
Here are some things you can do to work towards this goal. I developed this list as I went through an ending of my own.
- Be kind to yourself and to your ex even if they’re acting with a mean spirit.
- Always be honest with yourself and with your ex.
- Be a true friend to your ex, even if your ex doesn’t reciprocate.
- Remember the beauty that was in the relationship
- Listen to your ex’s pain, even if it hurts you to do so.
- Understand that you might be causing pain.
- Let yourself feel your hurts.
- Work at feeling compassion for the person that hurt you. They’re human, too.
- Know that you’re not a mistake.
- If you hurt your ex, apologize. Then apologize again.
- Examine your role in the relationship and its ending.
- Discover yourself. Delve deeply within. Seek counseling if you need help doing this.
- Always choose the high road.
- Put yourself first, even if this means you need to leave the relationship.
- Don’t let the ex return to you if they haven’t truly changed. If they haven’t yet, they won’t.
In closing, strive to forgive, to release, and to remember.